Hi, it's Kai

people like the little things that make life a little more comfortable

people buy things to make them feel like life is in their control

relationship trauma is commonplace

some people are in a relationship and they are still slowly believing in love but deep down think that it’s not going to last. and they believe that super deeply.

they don’t think there’s a way to build significant enough confidence to not even question the love

mothers have that child voice where they try to access their younger selves within them. that’s how they connect to who they really are when they are cooing at their kids

actually even the concept of having an inner child is really fucked up because our outer selves shouldn’t even be a thing that separates us from how we really feel.

emotions make you literally childish and that’s good

fiona has a hard time feeling a lot of love from partner because of microaggressions

• can this be addressed in a big way? is this inevitable?

important quote from fiona: “at best a relationship feels like two people walking in the dark but at least you get to hold each others hands, but that’s just how life is—in the dark.”

the thing that makes work frustrating is other people. by a massive margin.

adult work life does not encourage people to work hard, they encourage them to deal with other people and work with expressing themselves more and their own needs more instead of direct productivity. the overhead in an enterprise and why it is doomed to be disrupted, is the inefficiencies caused by bad relationships. and if you solve that, you have the most valuable company in the world. religion is a stab at making best company in the word. a company that works on the “relationships are hard” problem is the TOTAL TAM company.

that’s why capitalism culture isolates you from other people; the more your work is unitized and does not require you to deal with other people, the less drastic this effect is.

that’s why capitalism culture naturally makes you lonelier

unrelated but the way you get better relationships IS by improving communication.

the people who have it hard treat their children really badly and so the people who have it well (ie good relating) are SOOOOO much better than anyone. (is this true? where are those people?)

“let us be better than our parents, together.”

the more childish you can be with them (safely), the better the relationship

you can understand something without learning it.

• must tell scotf

getting more childish IS directly related to how much you can love

i don’t want to learn how to behave in a shallow way because i don’t want to get hurt. learning to be shallow is important (needs clarification though on what this exactly means, there’s definitely missing context here)

i’d like to be better at adopting a certain style!

sexuality(sensuality?) is the root cause of a lot of things, because it seems to be related to where emotions come from